I am a queer, a writer, a survivor, and a top who believes in thoughtful, compassionate, kink- and sex-positive community.  I spend a lot of time thinking about (in no particular order) bdsm, social media, community-building, intimacy, relationships, consent, and trauma, all with a queer, anti-oppression lens. I’ve been blogging at Circumstance and Carefulness since September 2010.